https://soberboots.org/tags/frustrations/Recent content in Frustrations on Walking in Sober Bootshttps://soberboots.org/soberboots/assets/uploads/2023/07/img_1290.jpghttps://soberboots.org/soberboots/assets/uploads/2023/07/img_1290.jpgHugoenMon, 21 Dec 2020 17:54:14 -0500https://soberboots.org/2020/12/21/sharing-the-load-permission-to-feel-impermanence/Mon, 21 Dec 2020 17:54:14 -0500https://soberboots.org/2020/12/21/sharing-the-load-permission-to-feel-impermanence/<p>I’ve struggled to come up with three things to post today. It’s one of those days when the weight of the world feels heavy on my shoulders. I am grateful to know that I don’t have to shoulder that weight alone.</p>https://soberboots.org/2020/12/21/hiding-in-plain-sight/Mon, 21 Dec 2020 08:00:00 -0500https://soberboots.org/2020/12/21/hiding-in-plain-sight/<p>I’m stealthy. I’ve always been good at keeping secrets — hiding things. I hid my feelings of guilt and shame about my father’s suicide when I was a kid by telling people all about it as soon as I got comfortable with them. If I told them the story quickly, and without a lot of feelings, then they would think I was over it — that I’d made peace with it. I told people that it was something that had happened, matter of factly, like it was as insignificant as what I’d had for breakfast.</p>https://soberboots.org/2020/03/02/skiing-with-the-scouts/Mon, 02 Mar 2020 15:02:13 -0500https://soberboots.org/2020/03/02/skiing-with-the-scouts/<p>A mounting sense of dread came over me as the weekend approached and I came to terms with the facts. I’d be driving four hours each way to a scout trip where the main activity would be skiing or snowboarding. I’d be giving up control of my weekend for the sake of my son and that of the troop.</p>https://soberboots.org/2018/08/10/dont-bite-the-hook/Fri, 10 Aug 2018 08:55:26 -0400https://soberboots.org/2018/08/10/dont-bite-the-hook/<p>Feelings can be so intense. This morning I was supposed to take my son fishing on a charter out of Menemsha harbor. I woke at 6:30, made coffee, prepared lunch and snacks, and got him up for the adventure. We walked down to the appointed meeting point, the Menemsha Texaco, arriving at 7:50. Plenty of time to grab an extra snack and a T shirt for the boy who was wearing a sweatshirt with nothing underneath in August. Plenty of time to catch the boat.</p>https://soberboots.org/2016/06/10/the-ferry-that-wasnt-a-ferry/Fri, 10 Jun 2016 19:20:11 -0400https://soberboots.org/2016/06/10/the-ferry-that-wasnt-a-ferry/<p>“Hi, welcome to Seastreak. Do you have a reservation?”  </p> <p>“Yes, we’re on the 2 PM to Martha’s Vineyard.”</p> <p>“Okay, parking is down the street for $13 a day, or we can valet it for $25 a day.”</p>